Tags: asian-american

Korean birth mother homes

For azad_slide's discussion:
Juice & cookies with a birth mom

When I was in Korea four years ago, I visited an agency-run home for pregnant women. The agency called it a birth mothers' home.

I found this troubling. First, because the women were pregnant, but not yet birth mothers. Second, because as I pondered why it wasn't called an expectant mothers' home instead, I realized that this was not what the agency wanted the women to be. They weren't supposed to be expecting babies. They were there to become birth mothers. The agency was clear about this.

We were there to console them.

It was one of the most stressful, difficult experiences I've ever had as an adoptee. Here were 15 or 20 very young women — most of them younger than I was — all in varying stages of pregnancy, who were made to sit face-to-face with us, a group of Korean adoptees of varying ages, as well as several white adoptive parents.

Some of the young women were brave enough to look us in the eye and ask us very frank questions. But many of them were honest enough with their uncertainty to admit that they did not want to be there, and instead pretended not to listen to the scripted dialogue.

Of course adoption agency employees were there, engineering "guiding" the encounter, encouraging the young women to talk to us and ask us their questions. Encouraging us to comfort them and reassure them that everything would be all right. There was praying. There were snacks. I wondered when the felt puppets and action songs were coming out. Would I get a sticker?

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cookie monster: 'me gotta be blue'

Look! Up in the Sky! It's Asian Man!

Once as rare as gold kryptonite, Asian American superheroes are busting out all over -- and joining the fight for truth, justice and the Asian American way.

It's a wet and overcast Saturday at my sister's place, and my son Hudson and his cousin Evan are taking advantage of the afternoon indoors to play their favorite game, which, if it had a title, would be something like "Superheroes Against the Cranky but Not Actually That Dangerous Robots." As usual, the two kids have taken on the role of that dynamic crime-fighting duo, Superman and Yet Another Superman.Collapse )
cookie monster: 'me gotta be blue'

More on privilege, acculturation and assimilation

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**This is from reappropriate.com again in response to her Asiaphile post. I think you'll find her comments re: culture and what that is...especially for hyphenated identites---very useful. There is an LJ feed of her site---though I don't know how to link it. I bolded a paragraph that I thought relevant to taxishoes post on names and appropriation.**